Comedy Central TV Series: ANYONE FOR THREESOME?

October 25, 2011

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Amy Huberman’s latest TV show Threesome got its first airing on Comedy Central last week and the first episode saw the former Clinic star having her wicked way with two lucky guys. Although the show plays it for comic effect, no doubt plenty of couples will get ideas watching it and consider the possibility of spicing up their sex life with the addition of a third party. However, before leaping head (and other parts) first into a three-way there are many things to be considered.
Just broaching the subject can raise all sorts of insecurities that neither of you realised were there. Suddenly one party may feel inadequate and wonder why they aren’t enough for their partner. It can also raise lots of questions as to whether they’ll do it anyway irrespective of if you agree to it. Let’s be clear here – while threesomes can be great fun they are not for the faint hearted or anyone with even the slightest shred of doubt about their relationship.
Think about it – you’re inviting another party to join you performing the most intimate of acts. Most women don’t even like communal changing rooms and in a girl, girl, boy situation they will find themselves naked with another female, which can bring all sorts of body issues to the surface. And don’t for a minute think that boy, boy girl is any less awkward as in this scenario there is a tendency for both blokes to try and play the alpha male and outdo each other in the stud stakes; leading to the female becoming little more than a piece of meat.
Also, having a threesome means that you will both have to watch each other with another person. This can cause feelings of extreme jealousy and, unless you are very secure in your relationship, can have a devastating domino effect after the event as you over-analyse what you witnessed.
Make no mistake – threesomes are far from straightforward and uncomplicated no matter how fun television makes them look. If you’re still both sure you want to go ahead with it you still have to tread carefully as your choice of third party will ultimately dictate how much you both enjoy it. For obvious reasons, no matter how good looking they are, it is best to avoid hooking up with friends, colleagues or acquaintances. While you may have great fun in the moment, don’t under-estimate the embarrassment factor that will kick in next time you see them.
For other obvious reasons it’s also not a good idea to pick up a random stranger in a bar. The majority of people who enjoy threesomes find that posting a discreet ad in the personals or joining an internet chartroom with like-minded people can lead to a meeting of minds. This affords you a chance to chat to somebody anonymously to gauge whether or not you think you and your partner could have fun with them. It also means that you can cut them off with no repercussions should they start to creep you out a bit (which happens online a lot!). Remember to never give out your real name or location online and be wary of telling people too many personal details.
In an ideal world a threesome would be a completely spontaneous bit of fun with an anonymous stranger but unfortunately there are many dangers out there – an STD probably being the least of them – so it is a good idea to vet potential candidates before actually getting down to it.  Anybody who has seriously responded to an ad will be aware of apprehensions you may have and should have no problem meeting you both beforehand. Pick a neutral location with plenty of people around for the initial meeting. If it is the case that you get a bad vibe from them, being in a busy location will give you and your partner a sense of security.
Once you’ve decided that they’re not a serial killer use this meeting to suss them out. If someone hugely attractive shows up and you feel that you’d be insecure getting jiggy in front of them, you can eliminate from your list of potentials. Equally if they are talking about doing things that make them uncomfortable they are probably not the right choice for your three-way. What you’re looking for is someone that you both feel attracted to and who makes you feel comfortable, because if there is awkwardness between you all your threesome will be a disaster.
When you’ve picked the perfect person then it is time to establish some ground rules. You both need to decide what you are comfortable doing and what you are comfortable with each other doing with the third party. It is too late to broach this mid-act when everyone is carried away, so it is really important that you both decide this now.
When it comes to the night itself it is best to book a hotel room. Bringing a stranger into your home for a threesome will only help to emphasise the personal nature of the act and seeing all your personal items around the place could actually make you uncomfortable and tense. Also, criminals have been known to use online adverts to target people for robbery, believing that they will be too embarrassed to go to the police and admit what they’ve been up to. Meeting in a hotel eliminates this possibility and means everyone can relax.
Many people find that it’s best not to use real names. Aside from the fact that it can add to the thrill of the evening, they feel more comfortable knowing that their third party doesn’t know their real identity. Remember, they’re not your friend; they’re a party to a bit of fun. You don’t have to share all your deepest darkest secrets with them. In an intimate situation it is easy to forget that this is a one-off thing, but do be wary of giving away too much.
When it comes to the threesome itself what you do is pretty much up to you. Once you have set the previously mentioned boundaries you should be able to lie back, relax and enjoy the ride. Don’t feel compelled to do anything you don’t want to in the heat of the moment. Even in a scenario like this it is perfectly OK to say no if you feel uncomfortable at any point. You’re all there to enjoy yourselves and no one will want to make anyone else feel uneasy.
Afterwards is when the awkwardness can kick in. for this reason it’s usually best if the third party makes a swift exit. This will allow you and your partner some time to reflect on the evening and maybe enjoy a little one on one time before you check out of the hotel.
Despite all the potential hazards, when handled properly a threesome can be great fun for all concerned and can definitely add some zing to your sex life. Use it as an opportunity to broaden your sexual boundaries and enjoy yourself and you could be pleasantly surprised!